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Books and resources to share with children
Using some of these books can help you start some really important conversations with your children. However, before you read them with your child read them through yourself first, so that you can judge if the information is appropriate for your child and so you are familiar with the story. Finally, see these stories as a springboard to further conversation, discussion and continued teaching and learning.
Please note that we do not hold stocks of these books for sale and they need to be purchased from an external supplier. Where possible we have supplied an ISBN number which should help with locating a stockist.
'An Exceptional Children's Guide to Touch' by Hunter Manasco
The rules of physical contact can be tricky to grasp, especially for young children and children with special needs, who are at a heightened risk of abuse. This delightfully illustrated and friendly picture book simply and clearly explains how to tell the different between acceptable and inappropriate touch, thereby helping keep the child safe.
'Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ by Jayneen Sanders
It aims to provide children with essential skills in self-protection from sexual interference. It is a story about a little boy who is sexually interfered with by an authority figure. This is his story and relates how he finds the courage to tell his mother about the abuse. While on the face of it, this may sound like a highly confronting scenario to relate to a child, it is written in such a way as to be a non-threatening and a ‘comfortable reading’ experience for parent and child. This book is available to purchase through Amazon.
More information: http://www.somesecrets.info/
‘It’s My Body’ by Lory Freeman
3 to 6 year olds
It’s My Body has been written to help adults and preschool children talk about sexual abuse together in a way which minimises embarrassment and fear, but emphasises self-reliance and open communication. You will not find specific references and stories about sexual abuse in this book. Instead, it is designed to help children learn how their feelings can help them make decisions about sharing their bodies, and how to communicate those decisions to others.
‘Your Body Belongs to You’ by Cornelia Spelman
3 to 6 year olds
This author writes about the importance of emotions and healthy relationships in the lives of children and families. Your Body Belongs to You addresses the issue of sexual abuse in a positive and assertive way without being frightening. It is matter-of-fact and uses non-threatening language.
‘My Body Belongs to Me’ by Jill Starishevsky
3 to 10 year olds
My Body Belongs to Me aims to make children aware that when it comes to their bodies, there are boundaries. It assures them that it is OK to tell a parent or teacher if someone touches their “private parts.” It tells the story of a gender neutral child who is touched by an uncle's friend and tells a parent.
‘Tell Somebody it Happened to Me’ by Nancy Flowers
4 to 10 year olds
This book aims to help children learn that even ‘nice’ people should not touch certain places ("your privates"). Tell Somebody it Happened to Me aims to help children understand that it is OK to tell someone-and that there is no need to feel bad. The main characters, Jacob and Josie, teach kids how to respond to abusive touching and improper advances. There is a section for a girl and a section for a boy.
‘Come and Tell Me (Be sensible-and safe)’ by Helen Hollick
5 to 10 year olds
Come and Tell Me is an introduction to personal safety for young children. Its central message is that a child should come and tell a grown up in charge before going anywhere with anyone. A thoughtful and upbeat book which promotes communication between parent and child without creating anxiety.
'The Underwear Rule' by NSPCC
5 to 11 year old
The NSPCC has developed a guide for parents and carers to use with children to help keep them safe. The Underwear Rule teaches children that their body belongs to them, they have a right to say no, and that they should tell an adult if they’re upset or worried. Download - the guide for adults. Download – the guide for adults to use with children.
‘Feeling Happy Feeling Safe (A safety guide for young children)’ by Michelle Elliott
6 to 11 year olds
Feeling Happy Feeling Safe (A safety guide for young children) is a colour picture book. It includes the stories: Getting Lost, Feeling Safe; Say No; Bullies; Someone You Don’t Know; Touching, and Secrets.
‘A Very Touching Book (for little people and for big people)’ by Jan Hindman
8 – 12 years old
A Very Touching Book is a full-colour, fully illustrated book designed for adults who want to take charge of their child's sexual abuse knowledge in a positive way. It helps parents avoid scare tactics and encourage children to understand sexual abuse in a healthy and non-threatening manner. This publication enhances understanding and communication between children and adults, creating a partnership of safety for big people and for little people.
‘Let’s Talk About Sex (Growing up, changing bodies, sex and sexual health)’ by Robie H. Harris
Pre-teen and teenagers
Let's Talk About Sex gives the facts - both biological and psychological about sex - from conception and puberty to birth control and AIDS, including sections on the body, families and babies, and sexual health. The book's serious and educational matter is presented in a readable form, with cartoon illustrations and the speech-bubble comments of two characters, a curious bird and a squeamish bee, which reflect the diverse feelings children have about sex. The book aims to provide honest and lucid answers to the questions that children ask.
For resources, publications, posters and other awareness raising material that will help us prevent child sexual abuse please follow this link.